In the name of transparency, here is a little info on who I am and why I am here.
I am 57 and been with the same man for 27 years but only married for 17 of them. I have been divorced twice and found trusting someone to keep their word to me again to be a very difficult task. I am a mother to two grown men that I adore, a son that died too soon, an adopted daughter that I adore and grandmother to 3 girls and a boy (to date).
I believe in traditions, honesty, integrity and hard work. It has always been my belief that if you gain something too easily, you don’t appreciate having it. Maybe that is why I appreciate everything that I have.. Nothing EVER came easy for me!
I was fortunate to be able to grow up around a HUGE extended family. Few people today can truly relate to being able to see your great grandmothers on both sides, great great grandmother on dad’s side, aunts, uncles, great aunts and uncles and too many cousins to mention! It was a blessing that I wish everyone could experience in their lifetime. The history, stories, antics, canning and baking skills and complete feeling of love cannot be replaced.
Unfortunately, my father traveled a lot with his work and we ended up relocating half a world away. That might not have been such a bad thing except that my mother and father didn’t really like or respect each other and that spilled over into our lives (brother, sister and myself). We don’t talk much about how it affected us but I know it affected how I lived my life for many years. Always feeling like I had to make things better to keep peace in the home.
I was fortunate enough to know that my grandmother (dad’s mom) loved me unconditionally and stayed in contact with me. That was my saving grace. I will share many stories about her in my future blogs. For the most part, I was always trying to measure up and never quite able to make it. (I am sure there will be stories about that as well.)
I love to cook, draw, sew… oh who am I kidding. Anything creative seems to call my name. I love children, reading, traveling and I am an avid photographer. As soon as I understand this site more, I will start sharing my photos. I don’t think my grandkids or nieces and nephews would even recognize me if I didn’t have a camera around my neck or in front of my face!
I am a survivor! I have survived child abuse, the death of a child, death of a parent (and a grandmother who was more like a mother to me), spousal abuse, car accident that no one thought I should be able to survive, and cancer. That “C” word that everyone hates! (Including me.)
I have been known as the cheerleader in my circle of friends and try really hard to let everyone I meet know JUST how valuable they are. Part of that stems from not feeling that way for much of my life.. part of it is just in my genetic makeup. I love to make others happy. That is probably why I am always running or assisting in fundraisers, donating time and gifts to those who are less fortunate and volunteering where help is needed.
Now you know a little about me.. And the reason I am blogging?? A couple of reasons come to mind. One is to share my story so others can see there is a light at the end of the tunnel (even though it may be a VERY long tunnel).. Two.. I would like to share my gifts with others and teach them some of the skills I was taught as a young child.